A lot of people from across the globe are often very confused between the idea of sugar dating and prostitution. It’s unfortunate that they aren’t aware of the differences between the two. In fact you’d be surprised to know that there is a very fine line between the two. What is sugar dating? This form of dating involves a sugar daddy (a wealthy old man) that is willing to offer financial assistance to a sugar babe(a gorgeous young woman) in exchange for companionship and lovemaking. While it is worth nothing, sex remains an integral part of a sugar daddy-babe relationship. Sex isn’t the only thing that’s needed to sustain this type of relationship, and the benefits aren’t just in the form of money. Sugar daddies are known to let their partners accompany them on exotic trips and social gatherings as an “accessory”.
How is prostitution different from sugar dating? In simple words prostitution means sex in exchange for money, there are absolutely no feelings and the individuals involved don’t get into a relationship. For instance, a prostitute would charge you on an hourly basis for the services that she provides. Prostitution is a business and a prostitute may offer services to multiple clients at the same time. When it comes to sugar dating, a sugar babe is in a relationship with only one sugar daddy at a time. Sugar dating is regarded as a mutually beneficial relationship for an extended period of time. In this case, the sugar daddy would take care of the babe’s expenses, tuition, bills and every basic need. Also prostitutes don’t have to remember their client as there is absolutely no commitment required. In a few cases, sugar daddy/sugar babe relationships have ended up in marriage. This is never the case with prostitutes, who never treat their client as a lifetime companion.
The Myths “Sugar babes are mere prostitutes”, this is just a myth and bears no truth. As mentioned earlier, prostitution is a business whereas sugar dating is not. Sugar dating involves partners, whereas prostitutes maintain clients. Another difference between the two is the perks that women are entitled to.
When dating a sugar daddy, sugar babes may expect expensive gifts, holidays at exotic countries and money to pay their bills or tuition. On the other hand prostitution is only a sex service wherein women are given monetary payment.
THE PROS AND CONS OF SUGAR DATING
As with any dating dynamic, sugar dating presents both challenges and rewards(pros and cons). Most aspiring sugar babes dive in the sugar dating world for the benefits, forgetting that there are challenges involved.
Advantages of the sugar babe (pros)
Perk#1- THE ALLOWANCE
This one is a no brainer. Getting a full time salary on a regular basis without having a full time job anywhere is just one of the wonderful perks of being a sugar babe. The package includes everything you need for monthly expenses(clothes, rent, groceries, hair and make-up)multiplied by two *lol*, so that you will also be able to save some.
Perk#2- EXPERIENTIAL KNOWLEDGE
This is just an intangible benefit, sugar daddies, are successful, literate and matured. Being in the company of a sugar daddies means you’ll get a whole lot of knowledge, including business knowledge.
Disadvantage of being a sugar babe
Disadvantage #1- SECRETS AND LIES
The life of a sugar babe is quite secretive, you be can’t telling your friends or family member that you’re seeing an older man *lol* they’ll kill you right there on the spot. You also have to lie about how you afford expensive clothes and jewelry.
Disadvantage #2- NO REAL BOYFRIEND
Yep I said it. No real boyfriend(bostro/regte), you don’t get one here. Your sugar daddy will just not be your regte(main man), whom you can take home and to meet your parents, there’s no real future(aka lobola/marriage and kids) to look forward to, and its going be hard to find a real boyfriend, you just
can’t juggle both men at once.
Pro and also Con – TIME CONTROL AND QUALITY TIME
Yes you do get a lot free time as a sugar babe which you can use productively. But sadly sugar daddy’s hectic schedules means that, they will not always be there when you want to cuddle and etc, so beware!
Well I won’t outline the challenges of being a prostitute since they are just there in the open for example violence, rape, difficult clients(bale ba go rata dilo tsa mahala laba jaja?(the ones who want free things)) ,STD’s and etc.
There’s nothing wrong with neither sugar dating nor prostitution.
NB: I’m not promoting either of these two things, but its reality and we can’t stop it. Some women have good reasons for engaging themselves in such arrangements. Anyway the ball is in your court ladies.
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By: XOLOLUHLE MAHLANGU
Edited By: K