So you did something that you didn’t intend to do? Doesn’t it happen to the best of us?
We have all been in situations whereby we felt that destiny treated us all wrong and so we get angry with ourselves for being naive, stupid, foolish or ignorant. We blame ourselves for making those mistakes, how could I be so stupid, so inattentive and so self absorbed? These are the questions that we ask ourselves when we are all alone with no one to talk to but ourselves. Many of us have walked into the fire with open eyes, we knew we could burn yet we still wanted to feel the heat in order to believe, like a baby not knowing that the fire burns until he or she touches it, so are we.
“If only I was advised otherwise” these are the words that comes out of many of our mouths as we face the cruelty and the uncertainty of life. But the honest truth is that majority of us have been warned and not by someone else but our own conscious and our own thoughts. Some of us have seen warning signs and clues but we chose to ignore them because sometimes we think that it’s better to live in the moment, forget tomorrow.
What if tomorrow disappears in to the thin layer of air? What if tomorrow is never meant to be? Sometimes we make mistakes because we didn’t want to listen to what has been said to us, sometimes is because even though the truth is facing us, we choose to turn a blind eye in the quest for happiness or just to be totally lost in our own world.
But sometimes we make mistakes completely unaware, totally not sure of whether we are doing the right thing or not. But the question that I have is, are those mistakes really worth it? There are some mistakes that can be of benefit but some mistakes are already uncalled for. Even though we learned something from them we have to deal with the agony of the fact that some things are irreversible and no matter how hard we try we can never change whatever happened. Just imagine falling pregnant without planning it or worse testing positive for a HIV\Aids test, there are some mistakes we would rather forget but the results are a constant reminder of what we did.
There are some mistakes that are miner, like falling g in love with the wrong guy or girl, jumping to conclusions, forgetting the birthday of someone’s special to you, those are the things you can easily solve even though some of them might take time. But a few just need a few magic words such as “am sorry “unfortunately some mistakes are for a lifetime and we just have to live with the results of the mistakes.
To be honest with you, I think it takes some mistakes to make us wiser and stronger, as people would say” what doesn’t kill you make you stronger”, so is the outcome of some mistakes.
We mature because of what we have been through, if you don’t believe me, let’s go back to the first time you had your heart broken. I swear you swore that you will never love and trust again, but then as time went on you got over whatever situation you were in and decide to take life on in a different angle, even though you swore that it was a mistake to fall in love with that particular person. Believing that the reason u got your heart broken is because you loved, yet with time you realised that it’s not a mistake to love but that it was a mistake loving somebody who does not love and respect you enough to never want to hurt you.
Some of us have made the mistakes of not appreciating whatever we had, and when that thing is gone we started realising its value and just how much lucky we were to have had it, But unfortunately we realise too late what we had and just how special it were. Some of us have made mistakes of not respecting our parents and looking down on other people because we thought that we were better than everyone else. And some we have made mistakes of not appreciating our family members and relatives, then we slowly let them slip out of our hands and then we realise later just how much we need them in our lives.
Mistakes can cost you or build you; you just have to be wise not to make those mistakes that will sink you. I can never say to you that you should not make mistakes because we don’t plan to make those mistakes; they are called mistakes for a reason, because we turn to miss-take some things.
At the end of the day, we have to try and learn from our mistakes because I think that’s the only way out.
By: MPHO P. MAKHAFOLA (THE BLACK DIAMOND)
Edited By: M.D.B